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Originally Posted by nightsky
What I needed was to be heard and seen and cared for. I needed him to SHOW ME that I can use my voice and that my feelings matter. He showed me the opposite. At least that's what it feels like. 
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He DID hear you. He DOES see you. He DOES care for you. Moving that item or not doesn't change any of those things. Hearing doesn't mean any other action other than listening to your concerns and feelings. You are making moving this object into some symbol of his feelings for you, but that just doesn't make any rational sense. Yes, it FEELS that way to you, but what he is saying to you is that isn't the reality. He is trying to get you to acknowledge that the reality is that the object isn't harming you; it is your perceptions/emotional connections you have placed on the object that are harming you, and you need to work through those. So, work through those connections to get past them instead of trying to avoid them by hiding the object. Hiding the object is just camoflauge. I suspect that is what he'd like you to be work on.