My partner reminds me all the time that the fact that she disagrees with me or doesn't do what I want her to doesn't at all mean she's not listening. When I'm in a better place, I actually even understand it.

I can see how might think that it's important for you to work through this particular trigger rather than ignoring it by moving whatever it is for you. And I think I probably would agree if that were the case, though I really, REALLY do get your feelings and would probably feel the same way.

At the same time, maybe this is an opportunity, as others have pointed out, to make yourself bigger. I like the other ideas folks have floated. Or, could you even just move whatever it is yourself (and maybe move it back at the end of each session...or maybe not). Maybe what T wants to to know is that you both have to take care of yourself, and also that you're worth doing so in whatever ways you need to.

Hugs, my friend. You've been at this for so long. But I can't help but believe this year is going to ultimately lead to such great things for you.

Take care!