I don't think she is lying to you, Granite. Sometimes we can feel triggered by something someone says that reminds us of something painful, and from that very moment, what we are really hearing is not what is really being said, but our "memory" of what we have heard in the past. It can seem completely "real", but that's the nature of that kind of dissociation/flashback,etc. Granite, what you "heard" were your mother's words, not your T's words. You've gotten them mixed together. I really think you have. I've done this myself.