angel i have the same problem... even when i do need something and think that i am "showing" that, apparently i don't present that image forward. in therapy we talked about boundry issues and i do feel like i present a pretty solid boundry that keeps people away. i had been talking in the context of sometimes when i shop, i will go there knowing what i want to buy, i'll even "dress" like a customer sometimes and still often i have a huge trouble finding a salesman to help, even though i think i look like a salavating customer with money burning a hole in my pocket i obviously just don't come off that way.

it's tough though with regards to friends and the sort of "catch 22" you mentioned. Since dealing with my illness i have recognized the need to be VERY CLEAR and specific when I need something. If i just ask someone to come over because i feel desparate they don't realize that and often blow me off, so i have to specifically state that i really need something seriously (even so i often am disappointed but that's another story).

you are right, it is a conundrum, tough to navigate, especially when depression clouds our judgement. HOWEVER shame on your social worker for being the same way. It is understandable maybe that friends misunderstand, maybe they really don't see it or maybe it is difficult for them to approach, but a social worker should know better and should make the effort to help and to be supportive.

At least you know that we understand and I hope that at least some of the people around you do too. It's a big issue and you are not alone.

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