Hey granite, I had this issue after marriage counseling last week. My H said he didn't think it was his job to support our family. I HEARD him say those words. For a variety of reasons, those words were really upsetting to me, and I interpreted them as him saying he does not really love me. [A big theme in our marriage counseling has been my feeling that he does not have my back, and has no desire to care for or support our family, and this translates to me as him not loving me.] So THIS week, we were talking about it and neither my husband nor the MC remembered H saying those words. But I KNOW HE DID. Then MC was talking about his impression of what H said. Yeah, but HE SAID THOSE WORDS. I know he did. He and MC may have interpreted them differently in the overall scheme of what was said, but HE SAID the words I heard. I apparently shut down and stopped listening to the rest, but I know he said what I heard.

Anyway, not sure that I am that helpful. Just wanted you to know that I have had a similar experience. And a similar response that the words either were not said, or were not said in the way I think.

And also, MC seemed kind of annoyed that I did not bring it up at the time. I tried to explain about being so hurt I became inarticulate, and then he suggested I raise my hand next time that happens so we can back up and try to address it. Yeah, because if I cannot talk, I'm totally going to be able to raise my hand and draw attention to myself.