granite, your T said something like "what about those people"? You interpreted it as that you were selfish but this wasn't her meaning. The way that we interpret what someone says can be way off what they meant. This is why it is always good to address anything that upsets you just to check with them to see what they really meant. I have done this so many times and always the person didn't mean what I interpreted. Our experiences do affect how we interpret our present.

Good work though bringing all of this up in session!

granite, you are not small. I understand why you feel small. I've been there many times! I actually address this with myself. I caught myself feeling this way a few weeks ago. I felt awful. Do the exercise in my signature. Do it several times a day. It really helps. When you feel small, the world and people close in on you and you feel that you can't act. When you feel big, it is different. You maintain your space and don't feel trapped. You can act and feel more powerful.