Hey Kel,
I am glad to hear that you will be seeking med management. I really think it will do wonders for you! I say that because my OCD is almost exactly word for word what you describe, fear of having a disease/dying and fear of harm coming to loved ones, and medication and therapy has had AMAZING positive results with me. Believe me when I tell you it DOES get better it really does! I also watch medical shows and I know I shouldn't but I do. It is like I am hypnotized and can't look away. Before medication for my OCD I use to be obsessed with looking up any symptoms I had a sneeze, rash, whatever because I assumed that any symptoms of anything must mean I have a major illness. I am so much better now though I RARELY go on to these websites anymore and if I do I RARELY get panicky about it. What also helps for me is that my husband has become more aware of my OCD "triggers" and if he sees me watching something that he knows will bother me he will kinda get me to snap out it by saying "Jen you know you shouldn't watch this" and he will change the channel for me. Sounds like your husband is supportive too so maybe if he helps you with your "triggers" that will give you even more help with your OCD. Good Luck! Please keep us posted!

Jennifer