As I a guy, referring to your compartmentalization, guys do that but NOT on this level. That is just strange. If I am with a girl that I take the time enough to text and/or call everyday, surely she deserves to be included in my life in every way. I'm sorry you're right, that's just not normal. Thing is, if it were the first few months, it might be understandable and I'd say just wait for him to come around but there comes a time in a relationship where we must put our childish games away and do what adults do and that is be responsible. He wants his cake and eat it too. What I mean is, he separates you from everything so that he can keep you for when he wants to have the romantic and probably sexual fun but wants to keep that separate from the other parts of his life. It makes me think that he plays with you like you're a toy, the toy in the closet he pulls out when he happens to be lonely at the time. In every way, it seems like behavior of a man that would keep many toys in his proverbial closet and I know you feel like he has been all for you all these years but how can you know when you're not included in all parts of his life like a normal SO would be? Even if it's not another woman or women, it still seems like behavior that is keeping you in the dark. Its behavior that tells me that for some reason he wants to hide you from sight as if your relationship has some sort of taboo attached to it and it's just not the way for you to live and frankly you need to find a man that will really truly be yours and he'll be proud to have you in his life and all parts of it.

Don't waste any more time! 10 years is long enough to wait for him to grow up.

I'm sorry that you're dealing with this, my heart goes out to you. *hugs*