I think what hummer says about being the provider is right on...when I realized that I was not going to be able to be the provider anymore was one of the hardest days of my life.

Also, I think maybe men are less in touch with their feelings in some ways...for instance, when I first began to feel bad, I knew something wasn't right. My wife and I were in marriage counseling at the time. When I described my feelings to our therapist she said, "You're depressed!" It hit me like a bomb--"Duh, why didn't I think of that" I thought. It is still hard for me to figure out what I'm feeling, though I'm getting better. I think maybe we are taught to ignore our feelings and keep moving on.