I gave my virginity (I don't think of it in terms as lost), on my wedding night when I was 20. And oh my gosh it hurt like hell. I'm not sure if it even counts since he was no where close to all the way in when I said stop. It took about three mths before success and it still hurt so badly, but at least it was quick (2 minutes tops). Sex was and has always been painful since and no doc seems to know why. I have discovered **** desensitization cream recently and that makes things exponentially better. But yeah, sex is not the most pleasant topic for me, and fantasy is far better because that requires no pain, even though fantasizing doesn't happen much either since meds cause basically zero sex drive.