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Old Dec 14, 2012, 09:48 AM
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Originally Posted by someguy83 View Post
I just kind of think of myself and think "who would want this?" And really anyone who either has a false perception of me who I'll disappoint in the end or sees me as I am and has standards that low, making me maybe not want her in return. I mean I wouldn't want me, why would anyone else?

It makes it that much worse when I see people around me getting married, having kids, seeming incredibly happy and content with their lives...and I just feel completely stuck and worthless.

I feel like I've failed in terms of what my potential is. I don't think I've achieved my potential because I haven't worked that hard and I haven't found the right angles.

I do not have much to offer a woman yea i have a job but i do not make any money . I am trying to make new friends but it is hard to do. Getting college done will help a ton so i can get a real job that i like and not feel like a loser.

Right now i just feel like i do not deserve love seeing that I have do nothing worth wild and do not have a great job. the sad thing is i could go out there and ask a girl out or there might be a girl that likes me but i will just push her away cuz I have to get college done.

once i am successful then I will deserve to be loved .
"Once I am more successful I will deserve to be loved."

That's your problem right there. You sound like a wonderful person and deserves to be loved now.

I have the same exact issue with my weight. "Once I am skinny, I will deserve to be loved. Once I am skinny I will go out with friends because I can wear nice sexy clothes. Once I am skinny I will get a job." This can go on forever.

What I had to do was accept the present moment and the present situation. The weight will come off in time but I am not going to spend my life waiting for something I want to happen to me. Once I accepted myself (I still haven't fully, I have a lot to work on), doors started opening for me that I never thought possible. I currently have a wonderful boyfriend and a wonderful job both of which I would never have gotten if I was waiting to be skinny.

So what I am saying is, don't wait. Life is too short a time to go wasting it by waiting. Do today. Not tomorrow.
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