I am a 53 year old woman. My husband and I have been married for 10 years. My husband has been seeing call girls. I've confronted him several times and he admitted that he saw one "three or four times" That is an understatement. I think he's been seeing call girls throughout our entire marriage, if not before then as well. I think he goes to them at least 2 times a month, maybe more. $200 a pop. He said he did this because I don't fulfill his needs sexually and he doesn't want the drama of having to "bother me" with his needs. This also avoids the drama of "having a real affair." The last time we talked about it, he "promised" not to do this again. Today I found out he is at it again. I again confronted him, but he denied, denied, denied and lied through his teeth about what he was doing today. He is a few years older and was able to retire early this year. He now has his days free to do whatever he wants.
Not only am I worried about STDs, but this whole situation really brings me down, thinking that I am unworthy and worthless. I've gained a lot of weight lately and I feel horrible about myself.
I think about leaving him, getting a divorce, but I would loose so much. I have no family of my own, I can't stand my job (although I make good money and don't have to work too hard), I have very few friends of my own (most are our "couple" friends that he knew before me).
I don't know what to do. My husband does not believe in "therapy"
Please help me. I need someone to talk to.