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Originally Posted by artemis-within
Chopin you completely were amazing to stay in the room. I am speechless too. I can't even imagine making it through something like that I can't even fathom what I would do if my t did that to me. Curl up in a ball and cry, or throw something at her, or just stomp out and slam the door I don't know. I agree with Asia her saying that clients can't affect her sounds like one of those classic "the lady doth protest too much" kind of things. None of us were there of course, but man, the way you describe it, sounds like your t has some MAJOR issues of her own, and I hope that she has her own analyst to help her figure this out so she doesn't have to affect you this way. In my opinion that was way unfair to you for her to dump all of her crap on you, the paying client. She owes YOU for this session in my humble opinion.
that really touched a nerve with me, I'm not usually so opinionated on here! I hope I didn't offend you or anybody else. But just wow. How awful for you. I'm so sorry you had to go through that! (((((Chopin)))))
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Thanks, Artemis. No, she is not in therapy herself. I swear she's been "off" the last 2 sessions. Heh...I didn't pay for this session as the receptionist was gone.
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Originally Posted by Syra
I read the whole thing. My heart aches for you, and yet I also see strength and am proud of you. Maintaining what you know in the face of a judging therapist can be very difficult. Telling others is also scary - well, it was for me. It sounds unbelievable. I suspect I might question it, thinking how could she be that unaware and judgmental if she has a lot of experience and you are clearly attached to her. But I've BTDT - I think. I don't tell exactly the same story. But close enough. A therapist blaming and judging me and not being aware of her own feelings and her issues intruding on my therapy. Withdrawing from me while saying she isn't. So I know it can happen. That person is not my therapist anymore - that was due to her decisions until eventually I got a "Dear John" letter. I didn't want that, although I wasn't willing to do the few things she asked along the way. That would have required me to hide or repress something major about me and my experience of everything, and I couldn't make myself do that. It was probably one of the best things to happen to me. I'm with someone new, and learning lots of new stuff - and also learning I'm not near so pathological as I believed when I was with her. And I wonder about why I hung on so long. I want to say I won't do that again, but I'm not sure that's true.
I wish you grace as you go through this.
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I hate that you've been through through this. I fear a Dear John letter, but que sera sera.
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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
Wow, Chopin....That sounds so awful.
I'm curious, though, how your T would describe the session. Might be a worthwhile discussion. Her perception may be very different - and there might be some value in exploring it.
I hope you can get another session with T soon so you can work through this. ((HUGS))
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Thanks MUE. Oh, I most definitely plan to ask her that next session!!
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Originally Posted by skysblue
'Stunned' is probably a word much too mild to describe my reaction to your session. For me, being very sensitive, this kind of 'therapy' would not be useful or helpful but damaging. So, I'm curious, do you find this therapeutic? If so, can you explain how?
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Thanks, skysblue. Not therapeutic at all. She basically turned into my mother last session. This act and my perception of it should teach me something. I'm letting it simmer until next session.