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Old Dec 14, 2012, 11:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Ladyzero View Post
H.B. Are you serious ? Are you contemplating a baby at 42 ?
Having had 3 children you know what's involved but why start again at your age ?
Shouldn't you be thinking of grand children by now ?

I disagree.

What's wrong with starting again if it's what she TRULY wants?

And, no, she should not be thinking about grandchildren by now. I'm 46 and mentioned to a good friend that I feel incomplete because I always thought I would have 2 or 3 kids and a stable marriage by now. She said I'm ready to be a grandma now.

Being a grandmother at my age had never crossed my mind and it really upset me. I was insulted.

If you're in the frame of mind to be a mom and someone tells you that you should be a grandmother, it's not cool.

With that being said, Hamster, I think more than a day's worth of thought should go into something like this.

On the other hand, if I was involved in a relationship that felt right, I would have another baby in a heartbeat even though I am 46.
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