I asked because my fincée also suffered some form of abuse when he was little, but he refuses to seek help and I can see it still bothers him. How do you go about helping someone who doesn't want to admit anything is wrong? Should I force him or push him to deal with the issue or should I just leave it. I know I should wait for when he is ready, but what if he never is? Would that make me a bad person for ignoring it too?