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Dec 15, 2012, 08:10 AM
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Member Since: Sep 2012
Location: cvghj
Posts: 127
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Hello  I'm not sure where this topic would correctly go, so if this is in the wrong forum I apologize.
I've had issues for a while about self stigma, and stigma coming from my family and friends.
What is on my mind right now, is something one of my friends said to me regarding a post on my blog about my daily thoughts.
I've told the friend before that I had mental illnesses out of trust.
In the post I didn't even mention my mental illnesses, but what he replied was seriously upsetting. He basically said that I am my mental illness and that I know what my pure self needs and my illnesses desire. The way I replied to that was as civil as I could muster, and explaining why he was wrong. (I'm not aware of what "my illnesses desire". I don't think they desire anything- because they aren't living entities. they are just there) He then replied to that with a sexist comment, and two long messages about how any illness, whether physical or mental, has to do with the person's choices, is a result of desire and disillusion, and how people enable the person with the illness. And he said he was just trying to help, even though in none of the posts I specifically asked for help.
I couldn't help but to shortly say that he was ignorant, do some research and to leave me alone forever. I don't understand why someone would say the things he did. It made me feel like he was also saying that the sexual abuse (that I confided in him about) that spurred my illnesses were my fault as well. As if!!
I really just can't believe I've talked to this person for so long and couldn't tell that a lot of his comments have been prejudiced and ignorant. He was so self-righteous about it, talking like he knew anything on the subject. Talking down to me.
When it comes to me, during the moment of conversation, I have no ability to gather words and communicate my opinions coherently. I don't know how to begin to stand up for myself when I'm being teased or talked down to, or when someone is being prejudiced. I have strong opinions on certain things, but others I have ambivalent feelings about, so I'm not sure which opinions I should voice.
I've looked for resources online about stigma, but I don't really understand how to combat it. also a lot of the articles about it are unclear, and the comments form people trigger me because they are also ignorant and blaming.
I'm just really frustrated and feeling down because I trusted this person and poured my soul out to them, only to have it backfire on me, like what happens everytime I like someone  
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