Bluemountains, I don't have any answers. I send wishes for comfort and support to all who suffered loss ... I feel gratitude for my many blessings ... and I don't go beyond that.
I'm a bipolar alcoholic, and one of my coping skills is knowing when to let go and let god. This is all so beyond me, trying to deal would surely push me over my "edge."
Please take best care of you.
Roadie