welcome to the club! ......
Personality Disorders are a different animal from a treatment perspective.....PersonalityDO are more "hard wiring" than software problems...if you get the metaphor...that's the best way I can explain it.

Meds & Therapy can help treat the manifestations but not the DO itself.

on a lighter note....more females have BPD..... The most infamous female serial killer Aileen Wornous was BPD........

just to indicate the broad range of severity BPD can have......

One positive I learned with my diagnosis...certain behaviors I did repeatedly were now attributable to my BPD, so I could stop beating myself up for making the same mistakes......some comfort....Like I could say..."you know why you do this & what is the usual outcome

BPD can also mimick the symptoms of Bipolar disorder

There is a promising new behavioral therapy called DBT....by Linehan
ask your Doc.