I've heard it said many times that the first year of marriage or co-habitation is very tough.You don't really know him,or he/you,so you can't really fix that,it just takes time.It seems rather insensitive for him to make the comments he makes if he knows how it affects you,have you shared your feelings with him? Many women have an almost instinctual fear of abandonment and thats a short walk to being co-dependent.is this an area you need to look at? co-dependency is not attractive in a partner/mate I hope it works out for you!