Wow, Rainbow, I think the "borderlines" thing is absolutely horrendous. How is it that therapists can miss Introduction to Sensitivity Training 101 and still be considered qualified?

I think the same thing about the "your kind" comment. I don't have a problem if other gays or lesbians refer to "my kind." I'm bisexual. I think that if members of minority groups (lesbians, African Americans, Native Americans, Deaf people, or any minority) prefer to identify themselves closely with the minority group, then they should.

But I think it's completely absurdly inappropriate for a therapist who is not a member of the group to do it. Even if the therapist was a lesbian, it might not be okay to say "our kind" if the client didn't want lesbianism to be such a central part of their identity.