I really wouldn't like that. I have people say unintentionally uncomfortable things to me all the time about my race, but I can let it go if it's not done so persistently that it seems like they are purposely trying to make me feel like an "other". Or sometimes also if they use it consistently to describe themselves as well.

Like, I'll refer to my husband's cultural group as "his people", but he knows I'm kidding around and that I'm just as apt to call one of my background ethnic groups "my people". But even THEN, we are referring to people with separate traditions who might actually do different things for, say, different holidays or gatherings.

I find that the vast majority of the time, in any given situation, my gay friends do *pretty much the same thing* that my straight friends do. There's no difference in "kind", just personality and background. To attribute certain actions to being gay or straight by asking what someone's "kind" would do strikes me as ignorant.

So, it would bother me too. You're not overreacting or blowing it out of proportion.