Amnio - if the fetus has Down, then have an abortion and try again for better luck. It is just a game with probabilities - the older you are, the worse the odds, but thanks to testing, you do not have to carry unfortunate pregnancies to term - you can terminate them. I have no problem terminating a pregnancy if tests show genetic abnormalities. I will try my best to not even get attached until the amnio results come back clean and I know that I am keeping the pregnancy, and I won't tell anybody in RL (I do not get morning sickness and some such so I can hide a pregnancy).

Rich man - money is just one requirement, of many. But because I feel that whatever income stream I would eventually be making belongs to my existing three children, for the next baby I would prefer to have a father who can pay for the nanny. Otherwise I would feel that I am shortchanging my older kids - not nice.

So all day today I spent in the beading store, making necklaces. It requires patience, attention to detail, perseverence... I doubt a manic person would manage standing at a counter for a whole day making one design after another.

As far as the r/s with existing children go: we will keep working on all three of them. I think I can manage. Today I wrote to my son, and a long letter at that, so it is not that I started thinking of a new baby and dropped my son - no, I am multitasking.