Already talking about the possibility of my son's visit. He is planning to use the money left by grandma for the tickets. I told him that I need ex to move his stuff out so that I can buy furniture for my second bedroom. I also told him that in Jan I will get money from ex for my car and will ask G. to help me buy a used car. When I have a clean second bedroom and a car, I can invite him.

His last message to me today: "I will not pressure you into seeing you, that is a big step ahead of where we are. Get your things in order the right way so you won't have to do it again. Good night"

See, those things are not mutually exclusive - I thought about the possibility of a pregnancy today and conversed with my son. And nobody got hurt in the process.