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Originally Posted by anilam
I don't think she realises that- telling her you find it offensive (as would most ppl) is a great step. 
Phrases like: those ppl, your kind of ppl... actually could come up from ppl trying to be oversensitive (and probably not comfortable) with the defining marker- in this case homosexuals but could apply to race, nationality, religion...What they don't realise is that it does have a negative connotation (I/we as opposed to them or implicature of other characteristics that these groups have in common) |
Saying these things is a problem, but whether or not she realizes she shouldn't use such expressions isn't the real problem for me. It's that she seems to have a pattern of thought that I find objectionable. I'm not sure I could value therapy with someone with this woman's world view--it's a relationship I wouldn't want. Being silent, or using different words wouldn't change that.