Have you ever wondered why now so many relationships fail. It's quite depressing really, to enter a relationship and hope it lasts when so many don't. Is it 2/3 survive longterm ? What gives a rel. longevity ? Apart from hard work, commitment and of course love. But so many people just fall out of love, even after 20 plus years of marriage, even if they remain friends after the end of the marriage. Look at Lenny Henry and Dawn French's long marriage, that ended, no third parties involved. After so long as a married couple to divorce it is sad. Why did the marriage, or any marriage stop working ? Obviously along the way problems emerge that need both parties to work at. You can't expect 60 years with someone and have no ups and downs. Many claim they become like brother and sister after a long time, well why not find new and exciting ways to find the passion again. Isn't it there, just buried in the familiarity of being married for so long ?
Why not re-invent the marriage ? like a make over, takes years off you. If it's getting stale, freshen it up !

Infidelity is a separate issue. As to why people cheat, there are many reasons. Cheating is often a deal breaker for some, a valid reason to divorce.

Some people divorce after a life time together, I find that strange. Don't you get to a certain age, and settle comfortablely ? It's lasted 40 years, it must be good, surely ? Not perfect, but what's perfect ?

I'm not talking about abusive marriages or adultery. Simply, an ending to what was a relationship built to last.

We (me and my Husband, R.I.P.) were very, happily married for 19 years, together for 25. We were genuinely secure in our union. I believe had he not died (suicide) we would be still married today. My own parents were happily married for nearly 50 years, only my Mum's death (R.I.P) separated them.

Even wealth and a priviledged background is no guarantee. Look at the royal family. 3 out of 4 of the queen's children have divorced, 2 are on their second marriage. They are probably not good examples because of the pressure and influence from the family, but even so, to see 3 of your 4 children with broken marriages is depressing, I'd have thought.

My brother has two failed marriages behind him, and adultery was not the cause of their failure.

I just wonder what makes love die and fade away. Wonder what makes one marriage last and another fail. No marriage is easy, and it takes work on both sides to last. I wonder do the statistics put people off marriage.
Not me, given the chance again, and the right person I'd remarry, definately. But for me, hopefully it would be, til death do us part. I'd do everything in my power to have an everlasting relationship.

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