Jan's right. Unfortunatly we can't help someone who doesn't want it. Sobriety won't work for people who justneed it; they have to want it. Sounds like you have a decision to make. Love him through it and hope he comes around, or leave. When my boyfriend left me at the hight of my drinking, loosing him made me hit bottom and get sober. Maybe try an Alanon meeting? They're for loved ones of alcoholic/addicts. Good luck to you. =)