I would not go to a church. I was brought up with religious abuse and I will never step foot back into one of those institutions.

That is mybown experience tho. Clinte if you are uncomfortable going to a church it is your right not to go. Showing up at church "should" be about more than making an apperance or making others happy. You are old enough to make your own choices about religion, faith and practice. If people are truly of the faith they should also understand things like tolerance, acceptance, understanding and compassion. Your parents might be able to accept that and they should. They should be happy if you follow your own heart, not happy just because you do stuff you are not comfortable with to make others happy.