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Originally Posted by nothingtolivefor
I believe in inner happiness but I also believe in investing that happiness in others and vice versa.
I think that is a big problem in society today...no one wants any investment unless it only benefits themselves. It can only lead to loneliness like being on a deserted island. After a year alone the only thing anyone would want is contingent relationships.
IMO
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There is a difference though between investing in relationships emotionally and expecting those relationships to "save" you or "rescue" you in your life. I have solid, loving relationships with my husband, children, family, but they can't save me or rescue me or even "make" me happy in my life. Only I can really control how I feel and if I am to be happy.
My husband used to tell me he couldn't live without me or be happy in life without me (and he meant it). He really did think of me as his rescuer. It was a HUGE burden for me personally. He's come to learn that his happiness and security in life has to come from within himself. I can't do that for him. I can't possible have the power to "rescue" him; only he can do that for himself. However, he can live his life accepting and thriving from what we have here and now, realizing that his happiness comes from just being in the moment and enjoying what he has.