Crazy because just last night, I too sent him information I found about passive aggressive behavior. His response was "I'm only like this when I'm with you.". I have to tell you, from your post alone, I have finally found the key to my sanity. I've said for YEARS that he was passive aggressive but I had not real idea what that meant like I do now. After reading your original post, I immediately got on the internet and started researching passive aggressive behavior. It was like someone had written a diary of my last 10 years! For the first time, I feel like I know what is going to happen and why. I actually left him a year and a half ago and as all the research says, he did not see or talk to our kids for 7 months. He stripped me financially and did not give me one penny in 7 months for the boys. Although I BEGGED him to see and talk to his kids during this 7 months and even bought our 5 year old his own cell phone so he had direct access to him, he still blamed his choices on me. He has threatened to lie to a judge and paint the picture that I am an unfit parent (good luck), he also went to everyone he could get to listen and spread tons of lies about me during this 7 months. My boys were so miserable without him and I did not understand why our marriage couldn't work (I think I was still blaming myself because I had no other explanation and he convinced me it was my fault) so I went back to him. That was 1 year ago. Over the last year, he has now stripped me financially, moved assets in to his mother's name, said horrible things about me to other people, and has tried to prevent me from getting a job, getting medical care, and has forced me to beg for money to take care of our kids. It's been a nightmare for me.....

Thanks to your post however, I now FINALLY see the light. His behavior is NOT my fault. I cannot love him through this. I cannot fix him. I cannot save this marriage, no matter how hard I try (and God knows I have). It just doesn't matter how much I love him or my family, it's never going to change and it's only going to keep getting worse. Thank you again for sharing. I look forward to hearing more about your journey. It will be interesting to see where we both end up.....