Good Morning Wife59. I'm so sorry to hear this story. This is one of those "whole world turned upside down" moments. First, allow me to say there is no "right/ wrong" solution. You will have to do what will be the safest & healthiest for you emotionally, physically, and psychologically. Some women stay in these relationships and become more damaged. Leading to emotional and psychological crisis.
If your husband is seeing escorts there are real health factors that has to be considered. Not only STD's, but HIV & AIDS is on the rise in the over 45 age group. I would like to share a story with you. My best friend is the head counselor at an HIV/AIDS clinic. She called one day, in tears. She explained she had just counseled a lady in her late 60's, who had only been with 1 man in her life. Her husband. Due to her husband indescritions she had contracted HIV. This elderly lady had no real concept of the disease or what to do. Her entire life was turned up side down.
In the midst of such a painful situation you must listen to your truth. You deserve to be loved for who you are. You deserve to have your VOWS honored. No matter if you're a size 2 or 32. You deserve to be honored and protected. Your life is valuable. You would be surprised the level of support you have around you.
If your husband doesn't want counseling you have to find out what is he willing to do for a solution to this. There has to be an end to the escorts, no if's, and's, or but's about it. That is a high risk behavior that put you at risk. In the mean time you need to seek counseling for yourself. That is the best place to begin. Be well.