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Old Dec 17, 2012, 06:46 PM
Booshka26 Booshka26 is offline
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 and 1/2 years. we have a child together. when he was a child he was sexually assulted, he says he doesnt care but he brings it up whenever we get into arguements, along with bringging up the fact that he doesnt have a dad, and that his family (mother, brothers, and sisters) abandoned him. his out burst werent so bad before. a couple months back he found out in the past i talked to a guy over the internet, i sent him a couple pics of myself ( my face, clothed full body pic, and a butt pic), this happened maybe a year into our relationship. And then a stupid old high school friend got my number off facebook and he txted like 2 times, i did the same as well. just a text asking me how i was doing. he started texting me all flirty so i ignored him. the last text he sent asked if we were going to have sex.

my bf saw this and since then now accuses me of doing all kinds of guys.
He picks fights with me over the stupidest little things like not doing something fast enough.

I explained everything to him and apologized over and over about being so stupid chatting with people online. i rarely go anywhere, besides to school or the store. i rarely get on the computer. i dont have a phone. i have little contact with anyone.

he gets mad, whether it was triggered by my son misbehaving, or me or my son not doing something fast enough or making a little mistake, he always ends up taking it out on me.

Its always about how i messed things up, how i have to fix it, how i need to help him with his job, mind, and everything. He tells me i have to help stop thinking all the things he thinks about me now.

When we get into fights its always about what i need to do, or what i did. Even though a lot of times he brings up his family, his dad,and his job also, he says the whole problem is me.

I feel like he just fights with me cuz im the only one around to blame things on. He begs me to help him, but i dont know what else to do but seek professional help. He accepts getting help with a therapist but he wants me to make the calls when he has to. But then theres not really any free therapy, so he will get mad if he has to pay for it.

He makes it a problem now that i dont have a job, complains that he has to do everything. Even though he knows i've been seeking for a job and going to school, he still argues over it. Telling me that the only real way i can get him to not be mad at me is to buy him things.

He puts me down alot while argueing. He calls me a little girl often. Hes made me leave with my son a couple of times, like 2 nights everytime. Hes put his hands on me, me as well as him. He says he loves me and he wants me but that i hurt him, I broke his heart.

He tells me i need to keep reassuring him that i havent forgot what i did, reassure him that hes the only one i want and have. i tell him i love him, hug him, kiss him, i tell him his all i want, all i need, that i wont ever give up on him.

i tell him that its gonna take time for me to show him that he can trust me again, that he can forgive me, but he says all im doing is making him wait like a dumbass. That he doesnt want to wait that i need to fix it.

What more can i do for him? besides professional help, how can i show him im sorry and that i want only him forever?