I dont agree with you wi fighter, self estemm is not a matter of getting something out of it! Im sure that she is not gaining out of the situation!
Its tough because unlike any other thing there is'nt a pill you can take to make it go away! It takes alot of work and time!
I agree that she shouldnt leave her boyfriend because of this as i have already said before!

Have courage cropp and with the help of your BF you will get trough it! (Btw talk to your bf, i know you say that men dont listen, but give it a try!)