I'm wondering what the deal is with transference. I had my own experience with it, and I want to know why it's considered to be so bad. I grew up with not getting attention from my parents, emotional & sometimes physical abuse from my brother, (which my parents couldn't or didn't control) and basically feeling that no one loved me & that I was alone.
I am very uncomfortable with touch, especially in private parts. Wouldn't it make sense to be able to heal those things in therapy, so that I can get married & have a relationship with my husband, etc? Isn't transference all about getting what you didn't get when you were a child, so that you can move on?