So I have been working through depression for almost two years. I have sought medical help, and am on medication, and am also in therapy every week but am still really having trouble understanding part of this mess and would really like to hear a new perspective on it all... The first year of depression was really hard on me and on all of my close relationships. I'm fairly introverted and have 1 really close best friend who knows essentially everything about my life. After a year of depression, which I felt like I was coming out of or healing, I found out that my friend had been lying to my face for months about some pretty important stuff all involving another person in her life. It sounds ridiculous and petty, but the depth of the lies and the importance of that friendship being compromised sent me into an absolute tail spin. Anytime that friendship comes up now, I question my self worth and anytime the person the lies were about come up, I am physically and emotionally ill for hours. It's been 5 months since it all happened and I whole heartedly believe in forgiveness and reconciliation in all circumstances but I don't know how to not allow it to trigger my depression. It's ruining our friendship and its ruining every day of my week. Is it abnormal that this would become a trigger given the depression circumstance? Why would not only friendship but the one that was lied about trigger it all the time? Do you have any suggestions on how to manage it, given that o don't want to drop the friendship and my friend won't drop the friend she has that is usually the trigger?