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Dec 18, 2012, 03:54 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2010
Location: Indy
Posts: 43,373
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IMHO your normal. You did what you had to do for your own emotional well-being. Most people think that no matter what you have to put up with family. They feel like there is this unbreakable bond that you just can't shut the door on. I say PHOOEY. Let them be raised the way you were and have forgiveness thrown back at them. I bet they would quickly come around to your way of thinking.
For years I couldn't be around my mother. There are times that it is still difficult. I have on several occasions cut her out completely. I would give it a few years and see if anything had changed. If it hadn't then bah what did I need her for? A few years ago we had an airing of grievances and buried a lot of the past.
But when I cut her out before I focused on my family I could stand, my friends and myself. I was fine without her and in some ways much happier. It sounds like you have given all you can to the relationship and gotten no return on it. I think it's only reasonable at some point to say screw it, this isn't getting me anywhere I need to focus on me and my needs.
Good luck to you. 
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