Hey friend... I have no words of wisdom but I'm thinking about you. Best advice I can offer is to break things down into smaller pieces and take care of what you can on an individual basis. Don't look at it all as one huge mountain of problems. Take them one at a time.
BTW, that lawyer isn't likely going to do anything that you can't do. (Most) judges ae human too. Tis the season if you know what I mean.
Hang in there GlendaGail