So Im going to post what my husband said on FB among thousands of his "friends and followers" the post didn't last but maybe 45 min before he took it offline but if I need to post it so I don't feel so upset and alone. His post will be is qoutes and after that I will post more below it....
"This is very important. I think I know why Adam Lanza killed all those children in Sandy Hook. I heard two things in the news about him. One was that he was a vegan and loved animals and wouldn't eat meat because of the cruelty they suffered. The other is that he had asperger's syndrome. The two are connected. My wife has asperger's syndrome so I know how it works. She wasn't violent and wouldn't have done this, but she would have thought about it. Aspergers people are generally very intelligent on one hand, and unable to rationalize on the other. My wife could build a webpage. I can barely do email. She has other things she is very good at, but she can't drive a car and she hates crowds or social activity. Lanza was apparently very good at computers and could drive, but he was also anti-social. My wife is also a vegan and hated animal cruelty. I am a vegetarian and I don't eat meat because of the way animals are treated and because it isn't healthy. I believe Lanza was locked into the animal cruelty and he finally just snapped. I can tell you about my wife having things happen that made her do things she wouldn't normally do if she didn't have aspergers but I won't put them on FB. My wife was also suicidal at times and I believe Lanza was too. What probably happened is he saw something on the internet about animal cruelty, probably factory farming where mother animals are often separated from the newborn babies. He knew he couldn't do anything about it, so he decided to teach people what it feels like to lose their children as factory farm animals do. He smashed his computers because he didn't want anyone to know his motive. He got his mother's guns, which she should never have had and killed her so she couldn't stop him. He put on the bullet proof vest so he wouldn't be stopped even though he knew he would have to kill himself. He went to the school and did the massacre for the sole purpose of letting people suffer the same way animals suffer when their babies are killed. He felt that the animals were killed for no good reason and he wanted people to feel the same way about the children, not knowing why they were killed. Then he killed himself. He couldn't deal with all the animal cruelty and I bet his computer was full of sites that show this sort of thing."
My first inital reaction was to lay down and cry for a good long time and I did. A lot of my issues I deal with today are from my inital 10-15 min diagnosis when I was 13 or so years old and diagnosed at the time with AS. Since seeing current doctors they haven't been able to confirm said diagnosis and they said without time and testing I will not know for sure and that is something I plan to do. The current docs say I have PTSD, depression, SAD, panic disorder, GAD and thats about all they have said thus far.
Its not that I dislike people with AS or think badly of them the part that I DONT like is that its been used to hurt me over and over and over again. I hate how my family treated me when I got the Diagnosis I hate that its been used against me, used to harm me and to threaten me.
While I am vegan and been suicidal and still to some point am I HAVE NEVER had thoughts or considered hurting humans and certainly NOT children..... beyond wishing to give my husband a good kick in a very sensative area! 
I am so hurt that he said things like that and that he believe people with AS want to harm others and may snap.
I am anti social because I am terrified of people mostly men.
Its not the first time he has said bad things about my having AS he has posted stuff on FB in the past he used it to try to get women to feel sorry for him so he could get them into bed with him he used it to con people out of money he even tried several times to have me thrown in a hospital and sent back to my parents whom are abusive. My husband was the one that abused ME. I am homeless and lost everything when I left him. I am so beyond hurt.