I've been hanging out with a guy for a little over a year, we got off to a rough start. At one point he fessed up about an incident with another girl, I was more bothered by his past dishonesty than the incident because I'd told him that the most important thing to me in a relationship was that we were completely honest and open with each other. After he fessed up I asked him to please be honest from this point forward, he said he would be. A few months later he told me that for the past eight months he'd been hiding a pot-smoking habit from me. Again I was more upset by the dishonesty than the action, especially because the lie was ongoing for such a long time and because he'd promised me he would be honest from now on WHILE he was knowingly hiding his drug habit. It took me a long time to get over this but I stayed with him since he eventually came around to telling the truth. It's been a few months and he suggested that we exchange facebook passwords to help re-establish trust. I agreed, and I've used the password a couple times to quell my anxieties when I'm struggling to trust him. However, the last time I logged in I noticed he had deleted an entire messenger conversation with one of the girls he used to flirt with a lot. As far as I know they aren't involved anymore, but I feel like he's again trying to hide something from me. I plan to talk to him about it and hopefully I'll find some resolution again.... but I feel like every time I start to trust him another secret is unveiled, and I wonder if I'm always going to be in the dark with him. On the one hand I'm grateful that he seems to eventually tell me the truth, but on the other he keeps promising to be 100% open and then I discover he isn't. I had my heart set on this guy and I really thought we might be able to settle down together, but it wears on me and sometimes I wonder if I could find a relationship with a firmer foundation of trust and honesty. So I guess I'm just feeling completely confused tonight and I'd be grateful for a little outside input!