The way a therapist explained the difference to me was that if the client was feeling like the therapist was acting like for example their abuser -

therapist is trying to explain to the client that a certain behavior is not appropiate and the client takes that as being yelled at because in the past whenever anyone pointed out something that person had done wrong they yelled at them.

So the client is transferring - they believe their therapist is acting just like thair abuser so they say to the therapist - "You're just like so and so!"

The client is angry about getting yelled at in the past and is taking it out on the therapist instead of their abuser.

They have transferred their anger for their abuser out of themselves and into their therapist and now the therapist can help them to take care of the situation.

in order for love of a therapist to be transference the client would have to believe the therapist is in love with them even though the therapist has not returned or showed romantic interest -

Therapist - "you did a good job today keep up the good work"

Client with a crush on therapist -
"my therapist loves me"
"my therapist wants me to go on a date with him"

The client is placing how SHE the client feels about the therapist into the therapist even though the therapist does NOT feel that way.

Client with attachment -
I like my therapist
I want to go out on a date with my therapist.

Attachments are clients using "I" statements where as transferrence is client saying statements from the therapist point of view.

My therapist loves...
My therapist wants to go...

The first post is from th client point of view using I statements with the words - I like, I admire, I have a crush...

the post isnt saying - My therapist likes, My theraist admires, My therapist has a crush -- when it is the client that likes, admires and has the crush. So this is an attachment issue not transference issue.

In attachment issues the therapist and client can talk about it, put up safety protocals or change of therapist

where as in Transference issues besides what is done for attachment the therapist also has to get the client to understand that they the therapist does NOT feel the way in which the client is seeing them, That the therapist does not have a romantic interest and get the client to understand that it is the client that has the crush not the therapist.