Dearheart, what about the cyber affairs he's had? Is he still posting profiles online? Do you trust that he won't do that anymore? How do you know he won't? There are probably thousands of sites that he could post on. How in the world can you keep track of all of them?

Is he going to communicate more? Does he agree to counseling or aren't you going to bother with that? I sure think it's necessary if you two are going to stay together. You need to learn HOW to communicate. Plus I think you need to know how to "fight" so that these issues aren't thrown into each others' faces when you argue.

YOU could use individual counseling too to help cope with your anger and resentment. That's not going to be easy to deal with on your own. You don't want to let THAT get into the way of you two getting "back together." If you're still angry and resentful, it's going to really hamper your way of making progress in your marriage. So counseling would help YOU a great deal to get RID of the anger and resentment. Think about it, will you?

I wish you both the best of luck. I hope this works out. Please keep us posted, will you? God bless & please take are. Hugs, Lee