I am in close to the exact situation and I can relate very well. mM gf tells me that she cannot controlher anger and the rage and that she does not remember what she does or says during these outbursts. After the outbursts, there are days followed by silence than apologies and super balanced behavior. It is cyclical and the slightest thing can set it off. Suppossedly her therapist told her that rage and anger is a normal reaction and that some people cannot control it and that she does not need medication....I dont know what to do either...Cause I am done being someones punching bag.