Having requires action. If all we do is sit and wonder what more life could offer, then all we're really doing is sitting. Getting up, moving, and making it happen is necessary if you want more. It's the same with joy. The key to having it is finding it in each and every moment, rather than waiting for it to find you. These things are lifestyles.

The bigger questions such as those in the title can not be answered by anyone else. You decide what your reason for living is, what you want out of life, and where you are going to belong. It can take time to figure these things out, but I think it takes truly living to do so. I just keep going, and eventually life brings me to the place I need to be and the next goal I need to accomplish.