When someone is pointing a finger at you, there are three more pointing back at them.Ive survived 17 yrs of abuse,are you going to be a victum or a survivor?? Survivors are the ones who leave,with thier head held high,with the intentions of taking control of thier lives,and working toward a better future for yourself.Good luck, the first step can be scary,so do it quietly, while he is gone out of the house.