I was with my bf for 3 years enduring his jealousy and possessivenss as well as his demeaning remarks to me.... but he was never violent with me.. and he said he just loved me so much he didn't know how else to handle it... that he couldn't live without me and was scared to lose me.

I moved in with him.. we had a son... he became violent slowly... at first it was a shove.. or he would grab my arm too tightly.. or he might have just slapped me pretending to be kidding..it escalated into choking.. punching.. kicking.. dragging me around by my hair...putting a gun to my head.. he busted my lip open once while I was driving 55 on a mountainous raod.. putting the car into a spin where we landed in a ditch.... nearly killed us .. our son included.

It only happened when we fought...when I made him mad.. or if he drank too much.. when I made him feel insecure...somehow it was always my fault.He nearly killed me before I got away from him...

and he never got the help he needed because it was all my fault somehow.. he didn't need help.. he didn't have anger issues... he didn't have control issues....oh no... of course not.. he didn't need to make me feel as small as the smallest piece of dirt on earth so he could feel big and mighty.. nope.. talk to him and he never had a problem,I was the one with the problem..

I know without a doubt that he loved me.. and I am serious about that.. I loved him too.. he had his good times.. alot of them.. but it never made it okay for him to do what he did to me.

If this guy loves you, he wil do what he can to get the help he needs to control his anger and to respond to his anger appropriately. And he wil stop hurting you with his words too...and I say meanwhile, listen to your instinct and back away from him until he does get the help he needs.Good Luck!