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Originally Posted by DarlaKat
I told my friend yesterday....and she was shocked. It shocked me, too, saying it out loud. I know I should do the right thing but it's complicated... I know it's the abuse that has me feeling like this, but I feel like he needs me. I've motivated him to finally get back into school...we both work at the same place, same hours (MY IDEA, though he liked it because he could cuss other guys out if they hit on me)... We're going to go to therapy next month. Which I know I should just leave...ugh...I just feel like he could overcome it if he learned how to express himself and communicate appropriately.
My friend is really worried about me though and I hate doing this to her. It's not right for me to allow my best friend of 6 years watch me get constantly abused by men and go through cycles of depression and social withdrawal. I don't understand myself lol it's sad  |
I'm glad you've been able to do so much for him, and that's very sweet and noble of you. I can tell you right now you're a better person than I. But you cannot be his anchor for a normal life at the cost of your own Darla...that can't work. You can't help him while he beats you and mistreats you in return. That's draining on you needlessly, and not at all fair.
I do hope therapy can help you both, but I do still stand firmly by my decision that it is in both your immediate and long term interest to leave this "man," as soon as you can.
I don't want to see things escalate and get any worse.