Anger that often became rage has been an overarching attribute of my life. When told I might benefit from forgiving, my self-righteousness immediately viewed the thought as folly. Nonetheless, I knew I had to do something to overcome the constant scowling and exploding vehemence.

One day, I decided to try to forgive -- both those I have hurt and myself. Eventually, I asked for forgiveness from everyone I could think of. Forgiving myself has been harder. To forgive me meant having to deal with the shame of inadequacy. I have lived a life of guilt, disconnection and isolation. Yet, I can say the ongoing process of forgiveness has made a major impact in reducing the anger and allowing me to like myself better. It has become a prominent feature of my spirituality.

There are benefits to forgiving:

According to Sonja Lyubomirsky’s The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want, empirical research confirms the proverb’s message. “Forgiving people are less likely to be hateful, depressed, hostile, anxious, angry, and neurotic,” Lyubomirsky says.

“They are more likely to be happier, healthier, more agreeable, and more serene. They are better able to empathize with others and to be spiritual or religious. People who forgive hurts in relationships are more capable of reestablishing closeness. Finally, the inability to forgive is associated with persistent rumination or dwelling on revenge, while forgiving allows a person to move on.”

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...f-forgiveness/

Perhaps others here might benefit from forgiving?