thank you both ffor replying. ttruth.

i gess i sshood hav wrrote mor. i wwas so vrry stressd. my bad, ssorry.

my 22yr old son stil livs wth us. and 4 othr teens. my ex abused him, my 17yr old dautr and me badly. (he was the ministr of our church) we hav (my husbnd now and i) gottn my son into therpy, a psych, on meds, and my son fownd an online support groop(online wrrks best for him, he sed). he sed he wood want to take a yr off, to deal. ok, frankly aftr a 'stint' in the psych ward, his dr. agreed. so we tryd to get him on SSDI, he has takn a med. leev of absens frm wrrk, and quit scool. in tthat interem, he has just gottn vicius wth me. and its only ggoin downhill. i HAVE read up on PTSD, ttruth. and i'v tryd to meet him on tthat playingfield. but its gottn so outof hand. he bullys me, told a ton of lies abbout his sistr, told me unless he stays online downstares playing the 'putr ggame all nite (and i DO meen all nite, aftr he's ben on it most of the day), he will go upstares to his room and SI. this is emotnall blackmail! and i hav 4 othr kids who deserv a turn on the puter! and who DO go to scool and hav homewrrk and succh on it! and who mite jusst want to play too!

this last argumnt just wnt to anothr level and my post was weerd. and i'm sory about that. we had just paid for a speeding tickt and his car tags that he just wasnt woryd about. if we didnt, how was he gona get bakn forth to dr appts?? my husbnd takng off wrrk?? i sugestd he sell som of the games he dosnt play anymor. nope, not woryd about it. and indeed, he didnt hav to be. my husbnd paid them. THEN he calld my husbnd a money ***** and sed he hated him. i just blew up! it wasnt a montth ago he took off to NY, on a bus, blew all his bday money (he cood have savd som of THAT money for the tickt and tags!) and then whn he was done, he calld and askd for a bus tikt home.

ther's the story in a nutshell. yes he has teribl problms. i told him he needs to get bak into therpy. NOW. but frankly, i'v had it. i cant deal wth this anymor. i dont thnk some of it is the PTSD problms.

thanks for lisening, truth. its good just to get it out.

sara