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If I was you, I'd call her bluff. Call the pastor of her church and ask to speak with him. Explain to him what's happened, and what's she's threatening you and your son with. I bet you he could calm things down in a heartbeat

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I've been hesitating in responding to this, but I felt I needed to say something here. Many years ago, in most places, people had the say about whether or not they would press charges. That has changed almost everywhere. You can no longer call the police and then say you won't press charges, that is left to the DA. Now, that being said, please understand, if you talk to a priest or mental health professional and speak of sexual abuse of a child - He is required by law to report that to law enforcement. Then it is out of everybody's hand except for the DA. The age of consent differs from state to state and I have no idea what it is where you live.

I do understand your feelings of hurt, anger and fear. I can also understand some of her feelings. I personally believe that it is my responsibility as a parent to teach my children and protect them as best I can. If someone had sex with my young daughter, I would from that point consider him untrustworthy. I would not consider his parents to be so, but if they were incapable of knowing what was going on, I would be hesitant to allow my daughter to spend time in their home.

I really hope that this works out. It is a very scary, troublesome situation. My best to you.
Mark

Though inland far we be,
Our souls have sight of that immortal sea
Which brought us hither.
William Wordsworth (1770–1850)