My husband just isn't good at picking out gifts and items for me. I have to remember that he wasn't raised like we women were, to think about what others/men wanted. They're different animals and have to be taught by us to be the way we want them to be. I once complained to my T early in my relationship with my husband about something and my T replied, "Now how long have you known him? And how long did his mother have him?" LOL! I got the point. I mostly think about all the years I lived alone and realize now that I can live poor, alone and lonely, scared for my future and take out the trash or I can have a great provider and fun companion whom I know loves me, not have to worry about money and take out the trash. Not hard to choose between.