I would try to think of my own alternative therapy for a month or two if I wanted to try things more on my "own" instead of being so dependent on my therapist. I'd pick a longish period just past what I thought would be easy enough for me and try something I was interested in but found challenging that I was wondering might work (tai chi, yoga, a class of some sort or quick work with another therapist or maybe even online therapy? http://www.metanoia.org ) Maybe just find a good workbook like Lorraine Bell's Managing Intense Emotions and Overcoming Self-Destructive Habits: http://www.amazon.com/Managing-Inten...dp/1583919155/ You could do something like get the book, figure out how long you wanted to take to work through it and then you could write a "report" to share with your therapist when you saw her again. This would show everyone, especially yourself that you were working hard on your problems in your way and were "in charge."